In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.


Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.


Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.

angelclark:

5-Year-Old With Autism Paints Stunning Masterpieces 

utism is a poorly-understood neurological disorder that can impair an individual’s ability to engage in various social interactions. But little 5-year-old Iris Grace in the UK is an excellent example of the unexpected gifts that autism can also grant – her exceptional focus and attention to detail have helped her create incredibly beautiful paintings that many of her fans (and buyers) have likened to Monet’s works.

Little Iris is slowly learning to speak, whereas most children have already begun to speak at least a few words by age 2. Along with speech therapy, her parents gradually introduced her to painting, which is when they discovered her amazing talent.

“We have been encouraging Iris to paint to help with speech therapy, joint attention and turn taking,” her mother, Arabella Carter-Johnson, explains on her website. “Then we realised that she is actually really talented and has an incredible concentration span of around 2 hours each time she paints. Her autism has created a style of painting which I have never seen in a child of her age, she has an understanding of colours and how they interact with each other.”

plus i just constantly feel inadequate as hell. I don’t feel good enough for anything at the moment. Sounds like i am whining, but it really is effected everything i am trying to do. It keeps getting the better of me. I should be volunteering soon, i love the idea. But i am so scared. I just want to back out. Everything at the moment, i just feel like i want to back out. I was meant to do this film thing… and i backed out of that. hdifhsgagh I am struggling to deal with things like this.. don’t know what to do…

ugh, feel so confused as per usual. Feel so teary. Feel so lost. I look like i might know what i am doing, but i really don’t.  I just want to know where i need to go, it’s so hard as i am really terrified about every little thing right now. 

urughghghghghghgg

mrsjonie:

5 Ways to Make Running Feel Easier: In order to burn calories and lose overall body fat, it’s necessary to skip the walks, pick up the pace, and run instead. When you’re first starting out, running feels so hard. Your muscles ache, your lungs burn, it’s hard to breathe, and all you can think about is stopping. Here are five techniques to incorporate every week to help running feel like a breeze instead of a chore. Source PopSugar.

1. Pencil It In: In order for your body to become more accustomed to the demands running places on it, you have to run regularly. Instead of fitting in random runs whenever you can or when the weather is nice, it’s imperative to stick with a weekly running schedule that includes running at least three or four times a week. Running often will strengthen the muscles in your lower body and core that are needed to make running feel easier, and it will also build your endurance. Ease into running regularly with shorter runs, and as it begins to feel easier, gradually increase the mileage per workout.
2. Slow Down: There’s no need to start off running seven-minute miles. Slow down your speed enough so you’re breathing faster than you would if just walking, but not huffing and puffing so much that your lungs hurt or you’re gasping for each breath. Skip the interval training because even though it’s great for targeting belly fat, running at a comfortable, consistent pace is easier than sprinting. Slowing down will allow you to focus on correct running form, which can alleviate common running aches, and you’ll also be able to take in the scenery or have the energy to chat with your workout buddy, all of which can actually make you love going out for a run. As your body becomes stronger, your pace will increase naturally, and you can begin to challenge it with sprinting intervals.
3. Make It Fun: If you hate every second of your run, you’re doing something wrong. Find ways to make it enjoyable either by bringing your dog or best friend along, exploring running in new places, listening to your favorite tunes or a book on tape, splurging on new gear, tracking your run with an app, or running near water so after your run you can jump in to cool off.
4. Hills and Squats: Having strong leg muscles will make running feel like a breeze. One way is to incorporate leg-strengthening work into your runs by adding hills. Running uphill will feel incredibly challenging, but as soon as you get to the top and start running on a flat surface, you’ll be amazed at how much easier running feels. Or you can focus on toning your lower bod when you’re not out for a run, with moves like squats, lunges, or step-ups, or try this yoga sequence for runners.
5. Don’t Just Run: Running regularly will train your body to make running feel easier, but if running is the only workout you do, boredom and repetitive stress injuries can make it unbearable. Mix up your cardio routine with biking, hiking, dancing, or swimming. Doing other types of cardio will strengthen your body in different ways, so every time you lace up your sneaks, it’ll feel easier to head out for a run. But the best part about taking breaks from running is that it’ll actually make you miss it, and if you’re excited to get out for a run, it’ll make it that much more enjoyable.

mrsjonie:

5 Ways to Make Running Feel Easier: In order to burn calories and lose overall body fat, it’s necessary to skip the walks, pick up the pace, and run instead. When you’re first starting out, running feels so hard. Your muscles ache, your lungs burn, it’s hard to breathe, and all you can think about is stopping. Here are five techniques to incorporate every week to help running feel like a breeze instead of a chore. Source PopSugar.

1. Pencil It In: In order for your body to become more accustomed to the demands running places on it, you have to run regularly. Instead of fitting in random runs whenever you can or when the weather is nice, it’s imperative to stick with a weekly running schedule that includes running at least three or four times a week. Running often will strengthen the muscles in your lower body and core that are needed to make running feel easier, and it will also build your endurance. Ease into running regularly with shorter runs, and as it begins to feel easier, gradually increase the mileage per workout.

2. Slow Down: There’s no need to start off running seven-minute miles. Slow down your speed enough so you’re breathing faster than you would if just walking, but not huffing and puffing so much that your lungs hurt or you’re gasping for each breath. Skip the interval training because even though it’s great for targeting belly fat, running at a comfortable, consistent pace is easier than sprinting. Slowing down will allow you to focus on correct running form, which can alleviate common running aches, and you’ll also be able to take in the scenery or have the energy to chat with your workout buddy, all of which can actually make you love going out for a run. As your body becomes stronger, your pace will increase naturally, and you can begin to challenge it with sprinting intervals.

3. Make It Fun: If you hate every second of your run, you’re doing something wrong. Find ways to make it enjoyable either by bringing your dog or best friend along, exploring running in new places, listening to your favorite tunes or a book on tape, splurging on new gear, tracking your run with an app, or running near water so after your run you can jump in to cool off.

4. Hills and Squats: Having strong leg muscles will make running feel like a breeze. One way is to incorporate leg-strengthening work into your runs by adding hills. Running uphill will feel incredibly challenging, but as soon as you get to the top and start running on a flat surface, you’ll be amazed at how much easier running feels. Or you can focus on toning your lower bod when you’re not out for a run, with moves like squats, lunges, or step-ups, or try this yoga sequence for runners.

5. Don’t Just Run: Running regularly will train your body to make running feel easier, but if running is the only workout you do, boredom and repetitive stress injuries can make it unbearable. Mix up your cardio routine with biking, hiking, dancing, or swimming. Doing other types of cardio will strengthen your body in different ways, so every time you lace up your sneaks, it’ll feel easier to head out for a run. But the best part about taking breaks from running is that it’ll actually make you miss it, and if you’re excited to get out for a run, it’ll make it that much more enjoyable.